We all make resolutions every new year but scarcely keep them. I am guilty of this on many counts. Out of a list of 13 resolutions last year, I can only cross out 2. That doesn’t mean we failed our year, it simply means we have a fresh start once more to start the resolutions over and maybe this time it’ll succeed. My 2016 resolutions are:
1. Prioritizing myself more. As a person that is all too willing to spend money and time on others, be there for them when needed, and care for everyone else before myself, I learned how this ‘good’ quality can actually be destructive. This year I plan to be better to me and enjoy more pleasures without feeling guilty about it.
2. Keeping a better, more organized record of my fiances and other important paperwork. This year I became a pro with budgeting and I hold great pride on this, however, not staying on top of keeping records and receipts for everything bites once tax season comes around.
3. Setting more realistic goals. I often overestimate how much I could get done or how quick I could get things done, still expecting myself to do it to absolute perfection. As good as this may be in terms of setting high expectations for myself to reach, this left me feeling unaccomplished even on days that I accomplished a great deal since I set out to do so much more. I have to begin making my daily to-do lists with realistic time frames involved otherwise I’m setting myself up for disappointment.
4. Putting an end to underestimating myself. This is done too much and too often. Although it feels incredible to set a goal and surpass it much more than set out, clearly I wasn’t confident enough in myself to set the goal higher. I realized I’m capable and amazing at what I do, so I need to be more confident in my worth and vision in order to stop underestimating myself.
5. Sleeping more. Yes, “sleep is for the weak” and “sleep is overrated” is a common sentiment. I have thought that way for so long that my sleeping patterns are awful and this destroys my productivity. I always feel sluggish when I wake up and it carries through the day and puts a halt to everything.
6. Getting healthy. I know I’m not alone with this resolution – the crazy increase in gym memberships come January and the crazy decrease of gym-goers by March speaks for itself. It’s a resolution on my list every year and is rarely completed. I’d go steady at the gym a couple months and then give up, starting again shortly only to give up again. This year I decided to go at my own pace with both exercise and healthy eating – this way I don’t feel overwhelmed with a complete new change and abandon it completely after a couple weeks.
7. Saying no more often. Being the go-to yes person has taught me how many people don’t truly care for me, but rather for what I could do for them. Saying ‘no’ once in a while is so important in terms of valuing myself. I have an obligation to myself to know when to stop being the ‘yes’ girl all the time and going out of my way to constantly jump over oceans for those who wouldn’t even walk on dry land for me.
8. Releasing myself from my comfort zone. I’ve come a long way with this in 2015 and looking back I’m very surprised with how far I leaped out. I still held back on a lot but this year I plan to leap out of my comfort zone without hesitation to experience the growth and change I truly yearn for and experience the true beauty of the unknown.
9. Making more than I did last year. In terms of everything – more friends, time, money, ideas, connections, writing.
10. Forcing myself to do whatever I like doing least first thing in the morning instead of dragging it through the day. It’s a burden to the day, and often becomes a burden to my week or month because I keep putting it off.
11. Tolerating less and letting go of people that contribute nothing positive to my life. Sometimes it’s difficult to cut certain people out but at least setting distant boundaries is a step. Saying no to more of their requests, not initiating contact, and not being available 24/7 for them is a step. There’s immense courage in confronting what makes you unhappy and focusing on what does. Ridding yourself of the toxic people eliminates a lot of stress as negative people will just drain you and bring you down with them.
12. Letting go of everyone’s opinion on my life. Everyone seems to know what I should do and how I should do it, never once considering that I’m fine without their input. I’m doing very well and have a lot to be proud of – I’ve built a life that’s special and my own and that is more than I could say for most people I know.
13. Telling people how much I love them. I’m not a mushy gushy person and I show my love through a tough love approach but this year I’ve learned the importance of flat out telling people that I love them because sometimes they truly may not know.
14. Putting an end to internalizing everything. Being a person that feels so deeply despite a tough outer shell, when people are hateful and mean it’s important I distance myself in order to clear myself from such poison. Thinking away from negative thoughts is difficult as the mind is very powerful so let the negative people that cause the negative thoughts to go.
15. Complaining less. This is coming from the queen of rants – people that have to hear my constant rants are probably rolling their eyes at how much of a fail this resolution will be. Although some complaints may be worthwhile and legitimately make me feel better about some situations, most things I would moan and groan about were dumb being about things that can’t be changed like the rain or traffic. In such cases, the only option is to change the outlook. For the things that can be changed, try to change it before you complain about it. Sometimes it’s good to rant or complain, it may be the only rational way to deal with particular things – but don’t let it take over.
16. Keeping a notebook beside my bed and write one entry every day, either upon waking up or going to bed, of one thing that I’m grateful for. Everyday must be something new so I’ll be digging deeper than the plain “I’m alive” sentiments. It’s a great way to get better at appreciating more and complaining less.
17. Taking my own advice. I’m always giving people advice and help with anything imaginable but I always find it hard to do for myself. It’s easy to say things to others and have them do it than to do the same for yourself.
18. Exploring myself more. I’m constantly working on myself, it’s the greatest investment I could possibly make, but I think cancelling out the noise of others is the most important step I have to take this year to better myself to my full potential.