There is a meaning behind every name.
Some people are named after relatives or an individual of significance. Then there are some that are told, “Your father and I were in a gift shop and saw a cup with the name Julia on it so I thought ‘that’s the one!’”
In reality, my mother simply thinks she is a work of comedy. The cup story does have truth to it but there is more. When I was born, close relatives of ours had a neighbour named Julie. As stories go, she was a woman of immense kindness and charisma, who truly touched many people. I do not remember her much as I was so little but I have a birthday card signed by her from my first birthday. I am told that this is where the name stems from and I take it with great pride. The cup in the gift shop happened later and was simply the cherry on top.
Now let’s cut to the chase. Why ‘Beyond Bossy’?
I went through countless test runs of different names and after surveying one from the other, I was simply left more confused. It ranged from ‘Little Girl Big Soul’ to ‘Beautiful Fiasco’ to ‘Project 5”2’. Those were the top three picked by peers but something simply wasn’t clicking in me.
Project 5”2 sounded great but to a person that doesn’t know me personally they would not know that I am 5”2 and my height (or lack of) happens to be a huge play of who I am. I weighed out every name and in the end told myself none of these were ‘the one’.
In casual conversation I brought up the frustration with an acquaintance that looked me up and down and said “what about bossy dot com?”
I am not bossy!
Although, there was something about the word that clicked in me so I did a domain check. Obviously, it was unavailable.
The brainstorming continued and that’s when Beyond Bossy came to mind. Domain checked out – it was available! I snatched it, knowing full well that it may contradict my message of empowerment to some.
Here’s the thing:
I am constantly told that I am ‘bossy’. I know I am not alone. Many people use it as an insult and at one point, I took it as one. Slowly realized it was something I should take on with pride.
I know what I want. I know who I am. I like things done in a certain way and I achieve the results I set out for. I work hard continuously and am a woman of strength and substance. I may be small but I power walk in heels alongside the people that think of me as nothing but a ‘little girl’. I walk alongside them with my head held high knowing full well that I am their equal. If that makes me bossy then that is okay. Did you hear that ladies? Bossy is OKAY! You will be called bossy for doing the same thing your male counterpart is doing – the only difference is he is ‘simply doing his job’.
Why beyond? Because we are more. We are beautiful. Smart. Brilliant. Kind. We are BEYOND the bossy label that we are given. People want to ban bossy to encourage young girls. I say, let’s keep bossy. Let’s empower with bossy. Let’s be the leaders we are, the game changers. Sometimes being bossy simply means we are in fact not just doing our job; rather, we are going beyond it.